Look! Bad mobile photo in bad light, but she isn't at all as spooked about being near me anymore. I think she was so shocked by being left with the nasty lady at the vet for her spaying that she decided to show me more affection and trust. She is sleeping next to me in bed and is happy to be petted and touched and I am even allowed to pick her up and put her down elsewhere (like on the bed or on my lap).
The cone doesn't seem to inhibit her though I am sure she will be happy to be rid of it.