Sunday 16 February 2014

HIPPO!!

I have been working on this thing since September. I think I can now claim to know how to crochet, and it feels like I have done so all my life (not in a good way ;) ). What a test of my patience. But I made a thing!


Saturday 15 February 2014

Undercut

I don't have any great photos of my haircut but I have some where it is possible to see what it looks like, so I figured I'd put them up. However, I have always said I shouldn't have short hair due to my scalp looking like a hot mess when I have allergic reactions to food, and after a week, sure enough, I broke out. Itchy, red, bumpy, bleeding. I'll try to treat it with a change of shampoo to one that contains tea tree oil, primarily. My old TTO shampoo made my skin calm right down when I had the acid-burn feeling on my scalp and back after washing my hair, so hopefully it will work with this too.

Also, holy shit but my hair grows faster than I was aware of. It was long enough that I could grab it and tug it after 8 days. Bought a trimmer.



Wednesday 12 February 2014

Question.

What would it be like if we were to treat our lovers more like friends and/or our friends more like lovers?

Sunday 9 February 2014

Erratic Behaviour

At some point, I cannot say when, it isn't very recent - probably when I started working management or so, I started a process of realising that things I find scary are often things I am not good at and that the reason I am not good at them is because I haven't learnt it. So I started picking up new skills, slowly expanding my comfort zone.

Trying new things. Going places I wouldn't have gone before.

One skill I picked up, something I became comfortable with, during the past five or six years, is talking to people in small groups, people I don't know. Preferably without a lot of background noise, because it will distract me and make it hard for me to get what is being said and what is going on, but still, the conversation, the people themselves do not scare me (some people do but this is another issue altogether ;) ).

If the group becomes too big, or there is too much going on in the background (sound, visual things, etc), there is too much input and I quickly fall out of the group, losing track of the conversation, unable to participate. I have a bit of a filter issue I guess, I see and hear and smell and touch and feel so much, and I remember most of it, and my brain has to process all of it. This constant barrage of impressions and input is, I think, a big part of my need to be at home in a controlled environment to recharge so much. It is also the reason for my need for my headphones when I leave my home, to limit things a little bit, an aural barrier between me and the world.

And here comes the thing that is still scary to me. Slightly larger, or fluctuating, groups of strangers or semi-strangers or acquaintances, a lot of background noise, unfamiliar surroundings where I am still taking in all the impressions. I don't know how to do it, I don't know how to talk to strangers in these surroundings, I get paralysed and afraid of I don't know what, while my brain tries to process all the information.

Ironically I am totally okay with going one step up - going to concerts alone, or to larger settings where I am just a person in the crowd and don't have to handle much social context. (I come to dance!)

But anyway, I figure there is probably some skill here too. I know that the ability to get to know people, to network, is a skill that can be learnt and I am working on that. I want to be able to go places and hang out with people and have fun when I feel like it, without having to message all my friends to ask if they want to go somewhere. I want to be self-reliant socially - I am not sure that is the right words but I think they make sense in the context. I want to learn this thing.

So I put myself in situations where I have to try to learn it and sometimes it goes less well.

Yesterday I felt like I was behaving Very Strangely, I was so off, so out of balance mentally and emotionally, and feeling so isolated and not knowing what to do about it. It took almost an hour before friendly faces even started to register (but man, were they appreciated, though I probably didn't express it well), I was so overwhelmed, pressed against the wall. I am pretttttty sure behaving eccentrically is not helping my case. Not sure what to do about that however.

I do think I need to try to get enough of a network that I will be able to go places and not go there alone, but being cut loose after a while when I have started to acclimatize. Dunno. I am speculating. I know I am much braver, more relaxed, if I have someone I know or sortof know with me, so I can focus on them - force my focus! - if it becomes a bit too much. And I guess I feel less like a weirdo if I am not going places alone :)

(Note to the last one: There are places in the world where going places alone and drinking beer does not bother me in the least. Stockholm, and specifically the synth scene, is not such a place however.)